When I was dating, getting to know that man. I wanted a relationship. I realize that the man that approach me only wants to have sex with me. Lying to myself that the guy had good intentions and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.

I knew when the guy approach me that his lust was for my body and not my mind and love as well. I knew the guy wasn’t the one for me. Still, I indulged in the motion of creating a halfhearted relationship for it to end the same way it started.

So after recognizing my need to cleanse my spirit, mind, and body, I knew I was ready to become and stay celibate until God told me it was okay to give all of myself to the man he had created for me. Here is a list of things I helped in that journey.

How to stay Celibate.

• The deletion of booty callers– I delete all booty caller, starting line team members out of my phone.
• Changed the number– I changed my cell number ending both ways of communication.
• Delete social media and created profiles and accounts
• Went to Church- helps to keep self-centered and surround in God
• Pray and forgave me
• Started dating myself
• Upfront about being celibate with men that approach me. Letting them know from the jump I was celibate and I was dating God (I went a little extreme but to my celibacy needed to be so that I could be successful)
• Keep my mind off sex by keeping my mind on God-I thought this was going to be hard, but it was very easy. I asked God to take away the desire to have sex, take the taste out my mouth, my heart and my body parts. Help me to get rid of the desire to have sex until it was time for me to be married. The next morning I woke up I could feel a change. It was about two months before I realized that the desire was gone.
• I hung out with family and friends
• I stop clubbing- I stop putting myself in place that reminded me of sex. I just wasn’t in the mind frame to jeopardy the work that God was doing in me and for me.
• I made a change that paid off for me in the end. When I met my husband, I’m not going to lie. I was a little scared to tell him about the none existence of my sex path. With that out the way, we were able to put the focus of our relationship on communicating and our faith in God. Something different for me which allow me to know he was my soul mate.