The Hunt-:-Stage 1

Setting the Bar low-

When it came time for me to get married I was relived  because this was another prayer that God answered. I wasn’t going to be a spinster. That was a fear of mine. I felt that God wasn’t moving fast enough to send me the one that was going to be my happily ever after. I was being unrealistic so I did what I felt was best for me. I went on the hunt. I set low standards for myself. The requirements were: 1. Needed to at least have a job, 2. At least be in School -(Trade, Jr. College or College) 3. At least be will to come to me (walking, bus rider or a bucket for a car.) 4. That he stay out of my pockets. 5. Like being away my family (really liked my mother).

Low Standards get you nowhere fast

Low standards. Now that I look over this list, I feel sorry that I didn’t allow God into my life sooner. I came from a two parent household. I’ve seen my father respect my mother and my mother do the same. The house was clean, my sisters and I had our chores. We had home cooked meals. We really never wanted for anything. In our household we weren’t allowed to date until we we’re 18 years old. I did talk to boys, but God and my parents  shelter my sisters and I from a lot of things. (grateful)

Love models

 So why did I set the bar so low for myself? I had great role models even the married couples in my church we’re my role models. I’ve seen how much my pastor cherished his wife. I heard their love story and how God told him that his wife was going to be his wife. If I remember right he seen her at the bus stop and he got on the bus following her. They engaged in conversation and on that day he told her that “God told him she was his wife”.  That’s the love I wanted, but was not willing to wait for when I first starting dating. “Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD.” Psalms 27:14

I wanted love like today. My first date was my prom. It’s funny now but that was the truth. Hearing all my life while being a church girl “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22. In my mind I only heard he that finds a wife finds a good thang. I could be a good thang. I changed he that find a wife to her that finds a husband. Which I really don’t think is in the bible.