Have God as the center of your dating life

When you place God first how can you go wrong? Having a prayer life will help guide you in life and when it comes to dating. Rely on God and he will never steer you wrong.

Know yourself

If you don’t know who you are then you will accept anything while your dating. Knowing yourself as you enter the dating world allows for better dating choices that will lead to a successful relationship.

Stop being the dismal in distress

As God as the center of your life, you don’t have to fall for Superman. There are a lot of people looking to date broken people. People like to be rescuers.  As a single mom, a man used to dating women who need to be rescued might be attracted to you.

The reality is that you have to stop yourself as well from looking to being rescued. When your trust is in God, the man that he has for you will be a man after God’s own heart, not some super book hero made up character.

Decide whether to involve your kids or not

Who you chose to introduce your children to while you’re dating should be very selective. Not everyone needs to meet your kids. I remember one time I was dating a man with children, I was so nervous and young.

I wasn’t sure if I wanted my own kids yet alone play step-mommy to somebody else’s children. After meeting the kids they loved me and I loved them. When we broke up, (the kids a casualty of the breakup)  I felt bad because I bonded with these babies. My ex would call me telling how the kids missed me. You don’t want to set your children, up for heartbreak. Your heartache is theirs too.

Don’t post pictures of your children on Online dating Sites-Keep safety in mind

You don’t want to date a pedophile whose real attention is for your child. You don’t want to be the one who brings home the sex offender who’s never been caught and place on the list you did you research off of.

Remember-Kids do as we do not as we say

Image telling your child not to lie but then you lie to them about dating. Don’t be surprised they lie, they learned it from you. Show behavior you want your children to follow and the example needed. When you start dating again, don’t lie about. Simply explain to your children on their level, you’re dating again.

Therefore, your children won’t be devastated if they found out on their own, your dating & never getting back with their daddy.  Children are impressible,  their watching even when you don’t think they are.

Be up front about want your looking for in a mate

Single Mom, let’s be honest here.  That line to men you date that you’re not looking for a father for your children. Stop it. It makes the man who isn’t looking to being someone else children father mad and then you look stupid when they leave you with another child.

Most men are upfront about their interest in you. As a Single Mom, you have the right to be up front about your dating internet too.

Truly you are looking for an enhancement for you & your children’s lives, not a replacement father (whether he’s good or not).

A man or woman can’t be expected to marry the parent and not the children.  It’s about timing. When the conversation comes up about what you would expect from a Step-father to your children express it then. Therefore it wouldn’t be any miscommunication on the subject of parenting.

Be as accommodating as you can

Single moms, wear many roles. Barely having time for yourself, entering the dating world. Your hopeful knowing God has a comparable person who will meet your needs, possibly being a potential mate & father figure for your children. When you date unto you introduce the God given man (after prayer &consideration) to meet your children. You’re a juggler, accommodating this man’s needs along with your children. Remember God 1st, the rest will take care of itself.

Stop moving these men in your home with your children that your only dating.

Being a single mother it gets rough, but moving in with a man don’t know or to use him just to have a place to stay is settling and misleading. When your dating outside your household(away from your children) both you and this man are on your dating etiquette.

To add in the layer of living together out of desperation or conveniences is not the right reasons to allow a man who you really don’t know living lifestyle to move in your home with your children. If you’re not about to get married, what are you doing playing house?

Consider the other parent

• If you’re in a Custody Battle or your ex is crazy this is not good information to share on 1st dates. Dodging questions about why your not with the father of your children IS something your can share when the timing is right. Taking the other parent into consideration is not about their feeling but rather about the children you share.
• Children need to see a healthy working relationship between their parents so they don’t grow up damage.Just because your not feeling you’re cray-cray, immature, baby daddy DO NOT disrespect him in front of the children and who your dating.This man and your children will respect how you handle yourself with grace.