I knew when I was able to understand some of the things in the church. God loved me. I was loved by my family. I also loved God & my family. I loved seeing my parents & how they express love to one another. I love seeing the church members & their spouse coming into church with their families. I love how my Pastor verbally shows how much out the 1st lady was his soulmate. I enjoyed hearing the story of how they met & how he knew she was the one for him.

I can’t help it that when I watch a good love story in a movie or read a book where the two people fall for each other and live happily ever after. I even shed a tear or two. For their new love. I know it’s not real but love to me is.

There are so many movies, books, and real life loves stories. But the reality is that it takes more that the fantasy of a Disney love story to keep a #marriage going.

Marriage is the good times. The bad times. The #sickness & the health. It’s the good. Bad. And plain ugly. But #marriage with God as the guide. Is the detour from divorce.

That’s why the word of God says to seek him first in everything we do. If you start out with God as your tour guide while dating he can start out your bless union with the spouse, he will already create for you.

I don’t have all the answers. I don’t know if there is only one soul mate for a person. The meaning of your spouse pass away is that it. I’m not God So I don’t know. But I do know if it is your desire to be married again, and you allow God to guide your mind body & soul that all things are possible to them that love God.

I do know that sometimes as a single person looking in from the outside of #marriage that unrealistic fantasy about marriage can be developed. Which can set your marriage up for a downfall.

I know personally my husband & I while dating discussed our desire to be married one day to have a family with the right person. We explain to each other our dating expatiations. But we never described our marriage expectations. Other than the desire to get married.

So when we did get married. The 1st year we had some ups & downs. We had some unexpected things to happen to us that we had to become strong in together. We had to take several steps from each other sometimes when we didn’t see eye to eye. We when you’re trying to have a #marriage where the wife submits to the husband this can become harder than you think.

Having to have a head of the household that’s not yourself especial when your use to being independent. Handling your bills and affair and now you have to be on a team with some you love to become one.  Taking the two and transforming it into one. Is harder than you think.

That’s why I want to talk about preparation for marriage. Going from single. Dating. Engage. Now I’m married are milestones that need to be enjoyed and guided by God.

Going back to what I said earlier about seeking God in everything you do.

Because you have, seek God While you were dating. Seeked God about getting married when it comes time to put a ring on it or get the ring put on it. You will have clarity that your union will be blessed by God.

It is a MUST to seek God. When I gave my life back to God. I was letting him know I was ready to submit to his will for my life. How can you submitted to a husband if you haven’t first learned how to with God.
Or how can you be the head of your household If you first haven’t learned to submit to the leadership of Christ. To be a great leader, you must first become a great follower. I am not talking about some kinky type of submission. I’m speaking of submitting to the will of God

John 7:17 “if anyone is willing to do his will, he will know if the teaching, whether it is God or whether I speak from myself.”

If you haven’t sought God. Knowing his word and promises he has for you. Submitting to his will how will you know his voice when he is speaking to you or through your spouse for y’alls life together.

See the world shows you how to get the ring. Now you’re engaged. So the whole engagement period your preparing for your bride or your groom. You’re not preparing really to spend the rest of your life in those moments of came tasting or dress shopping. Or planning how many groomsmen for all your bridesmaids.

I could be wrong. But I was just excited about God’s promise to me coming to past. That I was about to be a wife. It didn’t hit me that my life was really about to change until my name changed. We were living together. Getting bank accounts together. It was like prepared for the wedding & not for the rest.