And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. 1 Peter 5:10
When I look on my FaceBook page and see my single friends on there or talk to my coworkers who aren’t married major of them, want the same thing: To be married. They don’t understand why they are still single.
They have a goal in mind to become married one day, but I can sense the little doubt they have with each passing year that they don’t meet the man of their dreams and walk into the new year without a ring on their finger.
The sad thing is that these women posts I read or talk to are great women. On paper, they have their stuff together. Beautiful inside and out, Professional, and they know who God is. They are a package a good man should want to marry.
Why are you still single?
I feel many women who want to become married are single because they chose to make themselves victims due to dating all the wrong men. They make themselves victims due to the color of their skin or the shortness of their hair. Or the fact they may have children. Many single women become victims due to their insecurity. Victims of the low standards that they set when dating due to their situations.
The truth is your still single because YOU don’t know how to get out of your way and for real give your desire to be married to God.
When I was still single, it was because I victimized myself and didn’t want to lose the control I had over myself. But yet I was crying every 5 minutes to God about him not bring me the mate he said he had for me.
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Help me God
I feel like a lot of women today are picky because of past habits that they brought into their new relationships from their old relationships. Trusting God and submitting to his will for my life I was able to celebrate being single and find out who I was as Indigo the person rather than Indigo the date or Indigo the wannabe girlfriend.
When I ready to give things over to God, I had, to be honest with myself and deal with my issue. I was a fixer, so I had to ask God to change me. I was still single because I was a big collector of other people’s issue. I had to final make up my mind to trust him after I made it so easy to trust men that didn’t even respect me. Given God, myself changed me. I was able to value the waiting processes through my singleness for my husband.
My mindset had a change to where I was committed to God and his will for my life. I wasn’t single because God said according to his word he made me be a helpmate. I just had to be patience and wait for God’s words to return to me filled.
As a single woman, I started dating myself. I began to love who I was. The energy I put into overly worrying about becoming someone’s wife I let go and let God. I knew already I was someone’s wife. I didn’t have to keep asking God if this was the one or not. I didn’t have to waste time dating for fear if I miss the one. I just trusted God.
I was able to put more focus into the things that made me a better person. I began to pray for my mate so that when God finally allow us to meet and get married that I would be the very best that God had designed me to be for my husband.
The more I turned to God the more the pressure of finding a spouse left. Singleness was no longer a curse. It was now a gift to value with God was working things out in my favor. With a new openness to God’s process. God in control and my trust in him. God only need nine months for me to meet my mate. Getting married is another story at another time.
Continue to Part 1, 3, 4
Why am I still Single? (Take action) Part II
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