Dating while celibate can be a hard thing to image if you enjoy having sex. Now, these are just some of the things I did when I would date celibate.

I had a clean slate as a celibate woman. I deleted all my temptation devices. But that doesn’t mean I wasn’t sometimes
lonely or in needed of a good meal and some good male company. It felt like once I was committed to being celibate, all types of men came out the wood work. I was doing my best to shut it down. Being upfront about being celibate and the reason why I was now celibate made it easy and hard at the same time to shake some men.

I would straight up in the first conversation tell them if they were looking for sex that they found the wrong one because I was waiting till marriage. Of course, some of them would laugh it off and become embarrassed that I got straight to the point of the reason they were coming on to me.

Those were the easy ones. They would find an excuse and wonder off to their next victim. In the beginning, I was a little sad. Then I became a little mad because I wish this boldness were there when I first started dating then I could have avoided some relationships I had but those experience that I’m grateful for helping to shape me into the woman I am now.

Then the men that felt they were God’s gift to women would suit up and come charging my way. With their slick walking, talking bull. I would hit them with my celibate weapon, and they would hit me with they bet they could be the one that could make me drop my promise to myself. They would continue to rub, whisper, smile, and plead with their words and eyes.

Which made me stay even firmer in my decision.  These men became unattractive to me. I would think why would I want a man that can’t respect my decision to keep to myself. If they thought this was a game, I know for sure they aren’t the ones for me.

Me being celibate wasn’t a game to see who could get me to have sex and fail myself again. It was a promise I made to myself. It was the commitment I plan to keep between God and me. I wanted a Godly man. Intending to see God’s promise to me becoming a wife for filled and I wasn’t willing to give that up for no wack one night stand with some man that seen me as something he wanted to conquer and not love for the rest of his life.

I’m not going to lie the life style of celibacy is not for the faint of heart. This lifestyle calls for a spiritual center helps. Knowing who you are and why you are giving up sex helps when dating. You have to stay true to yourself.