“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled” Hebrews 13:4

Stop being the hunter/huntress and start being the Mate

Before I got married and I was in the dating world. I was so impatience for the gift, my mate that God said according to his word said he had created for me. I would go to church after a bad break up. All torn down and pitiful and I was like ‘God, Here I am… now fix me.’

He would do just that, then he would send his word to me that he had someone for me, that I would get married and I would have my own family. I could remember getting so excited about his promise that I was ready to do what was needed.

Honestly, I wasn’t. I would go home after that service, praising God that I wasn’t going to be lonely anymore. After a week of not calling my old boo’s and ‘the one’ God had for me didn’t show up to rescue me like prince charming. I was disappointed, frustrated and already putting back on my hunting gear.

Back at it again: The Hunt

Which consistent of my freak’em dress and heels, my hair piece, nails, and feet were done and I was ready to go to my hunting grounds: the club, online dating sites, the store, school, where ever there was a tall man at I was trying to be. I had my bow and arrow (my, body and smile) ready, set and aimed at my next prey.

I would play the game, watching my prey’s actions waiting for the chance to pounce on them and claim them as my prize or let them think that they had chosen me.  This would happen over and over again. This was my pattern. I was so sick and tired of being sick and tired. I wanted the love I seen between my parents. In my pursuit of this, I was hurting myself.

Everyone can tell you to save yourself till marriage, or you should get married. But no one is ever real about why you should wait or want to be married. They tell you that this is what the word of God says but they don’t go into details to explain that the love you will receive for ‘the one’ that God has created for you can’t be duplicated by hunting prey that doesn’t belong to you.

Dating is a game. Just like hunting

When a hunter hunts for prey, they are hunting with the goal or satisfying their hunger now. A new hunter looks for something just to get their thirsty wet, a small prey is enough to get them through the night or through the week. Then they are back at it again.

A seasoned hunter hunts all season long for many years. They have many preys. They love hunting so much that the only thing they are committed to  the hunt. They don’t want to be sustain. They love getting and having as much different varies as they like and that ladies and gentleman, is dating, without God in it.

The different between a prey and a mate is:

Prey

Prey is something you went out and supplied your own needs with. Yes, you can get married to prey but prey will lie to you, leave you hungry, you will find yourself tempted to hunt again. While Prey will let you do all the praying, this is a hint you will be the save one doing all the work. If they hit you with that smooth line ‘I’m looking for a good Christian man/woman.’ Beware of that line, cause if you don’t it will have you dropping an item of clothing you wasn’t prepared to drop.

Mate

As for the mate, the mate was made just for your needs. They were made in the likeness of God. They are men and women after God’s own heart. The mate is a lifer. A mate is the meat that will keep you forever feed. Not saying you will not be tempted by another but I’m sure you’ll think twice about messing up the good thing you have with your Mate. A mate will pray for you, and with you.

If you are really ready for a change, ready to wait on the lord to stop hunting prey and gain your mate. Then I suggest you look at my Guide to five principles  that help me leave my old status of huntress to wife.

These five principles on how to get yourself in a place of wait and preparation for your mate will help you know God’s guidance.

Guide Can be found by clicking on the link below 

  Five principles to leave the status of Prey hunter to Mate Keeper