Not everyone knows that when dating that they should set dating expectations. I feel when you know that your endgame is to become a wife then you should start setting dating expectations to help guide you while you are waiting for God to send you the husband he has for you. These are the things I did for myself when I was ready to be serious to wait on God to send me my husband. I became real with myself and the standards I was willing and ready to receive.

Setting Realistic Dating Standards 

Establishing realistic standards I needed to ask myself the tough questions. The questions you see here are some of the same questions I had to ask myself. To set my dating standards, while I was dating. These questions we so important to me to help me accept the husband that God confirmed in my spirit to expect as the mate he had created for me.

Value standards

Firstly, I  asked myself  the following questions in  what I wanted in a Husband

• What kind of life could I see myself having with this man and would he add value to my life?
• What value do I have to add to his life?
• Could I ask this man about his dating and marriage standards and accept them if they were different from my own?

Attraction standards

Secondly, I asked myself what would make me attractive to my husband with these following questions.

• Could I accept my husband if he were overweight? Underweight?
• Am I more into the physical aspect of a husband or can I accept my mate’s physical flaws if God told me that this man was mine?
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Income standards

When I started to date my husband, I let him know right off the bat that I and money are friends. I’m praying to God to help me with this. So don’t try to come in between me and my money.  So asking about income is critical so that you know where each other stand on the topic. Money doesn’t have to be an issue if you have the talk at the beginning of the relationship. I asked myself what would make me attractive to the income level I wanted in my husband with these following questions.

• Could I be with this man if he had a job or was building a career?
• Could I honestly feel comfortable with this man if he had no money but has a dreams, goals, and visions?
•  Do I have issues with money? If so how can I make this a non-issue for my husband?

Compromise standards

A healthy relationship is about giving and taking. I build my relationship with God I establish a compromising relationship where I was taught to love and give love to God. When I was ready to enter into a relationship with my husband. I wanted to make sure that I didn’t compromise myself, that there was a right balance of giving to my partner and taking. These are some of the questions I asked myself while I date my husband.

• Can I abstinence from sex until I’ll marry
• Would I be willing to relocate for my husband if he wanted to be close to his family?
• Am I willing to sacrifice my dreams for a little while so that my husband can focus on his 1st?

Family standards

I had a few relationships where I felt the pull between who I was dating and my family. The family is imperative to me. I let anyone I talked to or dated know this. Here are a few questions regarding family.

• Does this man I’m dating respect his parents?
• Can I handle this man having a best Friend that is of the opposite sex?
• Can I accept this man if he has a child/ren? If this man has more than one baby mama? Am I ready to become a parent to someone else child/ren?

 Support standards

We have all heard the African proverb that it takes a village to raise a child. But the village comes from the support that forms the marriage union. The support starts with the two people in the relationships that took the time to create the foundation from the beginning of their relationship. This is why I feel it is import to support your mate and yourself by putting God first. Here are a couple of questions I asked myself regarding the support I was willing to give to my husband.

• Can I pray for my mate now without knowing him?
• Am I ready to submit to my husband?

Marriage standards

 Becoming marry was a big thing for me. My parents were married, and Major of the families in my church was. The standard that I grew up with, the example I saw off strong men taking care of their families and their wives being a supportive unit and this is what I wanted.  Here are some questions I had to ask myself about marriage.

• Why do I want to get marry?
• How long will I get to know my man before I bring up the marriage?
• What does a marriage look like to me?

I had to be real with myself when setting my Dating expectations. It was my desire to be married, I needed to do some homework by preparing myself for the husband I wanted God to bless me with. Two birds of a feather can be a positive experience by allowing God to be the center of my life by trusting the plan that he had already written for my path. Then can be for your life as well.